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Miles in Memory

For October, Baby Loss Awareness Month, we are taking part in Aching Arms UK #MilesInMemory. We have a team involved (feel free to join) but me and The Wife have decided to try and clock up 310 miles, which statistically is a mile for every baby stillborn through the month of October. This is going … Continue reading Miles in Memory

5for5 : Month Five & Six

Okay, so hands up, I admit it - I missed a month. The six month mark of Leo's death and birth took us by some surprise, we naively didn't think it would affect us that much (Ha! What silly people we are!) and so, I missed it and by the time I realised, I figured … Continue reading 5for5 : Month Five & Six

A Creative Outlet for Grief

I can't actually believe that we've got it this far, its still very early days, but last week we launched our little shop 'Mini Robin Designs' and I am loving having a creative purpose to all the thoughts running through my head, and I hope that others like what we are creating.

Five Unexpected Things I’ve Learnt as a Loss Mum

The term "loss mum" is absolutely a phrase I never knew existed. There is so, so much we have learnt. The biggest being that stillbirth happens. To the point that it's ten times more common than SIDS. That healthy babies die, and making it to full terms gives you zero guarantees. That it's the biggest taboo. Yet, … Continue reading Five Unexpected Things I’ve Learnt as a Loss Mum

What if You Miscarry your Rainbow?

I guess I should start by saying that if the title of this blog looks at all distressing to you, or you aren't in the best frame of minds or places right now - you might want to step away from the triggers. This isn't the cheeriest of posts. On Monday, we miscarried. I was 6 … Continue reading What if You Miscarry your Rainbow?

Why Five?

Almost four years ago, we bought an Olympic bib set in a discount sale opposite the Olympic stadium. September 2012. About the same time that we started looking into fertility treatment. A year later, that bib set then haunted me as we went on to "fail" our first, then second, then third cycle of IUI. … Continue reading Why Five?

What does SANDS give us?

June is SANDS Awareness Month. It's like Christmas for the baby loss community online. Just with orange and a bucket load of sadness. It's incredible. It's eye opening. It's comforting. I've been sharing on our Facebook page, the different ways SANDS use all the generous donations to help the baby loss community. It's important for … Continue reading What does SANDS give us?

A Legacy Milestone : Five 

Five thousand pounds has now been raised in Leo's name. Five thousand pounds. This was our annual target to hit for Leo's first birthday - in January. Next year. We have only just started fundraising properly this month - with three races, the latest was yesterday. Our friend ran the Edinburgh 5km and raised just … Continue reading A Legacy Milestone : Five 

Leo’s Life in One Envelope

So, after requesting back at the start of April - after we got home from our first post mortem appointment - we finally received my medical notes. You literally ask and ask and chase and chase and then pay the £25 cheque (yes, cheque - my cheque book has two cheques used. Leo's headstone and … Continue reading Leo’s Life in One Envelope