Through the #ItStillTakesAVillageBlogSeries I’ll be sharing the thoughts, experiences and hopes of those working in bereavement care or in the prevention of baby loss. So far this blog space has been about the voice of the parent, and I would like to add the voice of the supporter to the mix of voices out there.
The phrase “it takes a village” is a well used African proverb referring to how it takes an entire community to raise a child. It hit me when planning this blog series, that this doesn’t change when a baby dies. It still absolutely takes an entire village (and more) to help keep the memory of a child who has died alive, and to ensure that their parents and closest loved ones can continue on in search of the light. These people start filtering into our lives from the moment the world shifts on its axis, and often we never know they exist. They might be the midwife to care for us during labour, or the researchers working tirelessly behind the scenes to improve care and understanding.
Whoever they are, I truly hope this blog series places a much needed spotlight on their efforts, dedication and motivations. Please do share widely and keep your eye out for the posts here and elsewhere on social media.
You can read all blog posts as they get released here.
Would you like to get involved?
If you have experienced baby loss and would like to cast the spotlight on those who you have encountered that have dedicated their 9-5 to baby loss, please do so by sharing a post on social media with the hashtag #ItStillTakesAVillageBlogSeries and tag me @thelegacyofleo – and I’ll share as many as I can. By sharing more experiences, I hope we can show the world that firstly, it isn’t *just* parents affected by loss, but those who support us too – and secondly, that there is an army of people dedicated to helping parents like us.
If you work in baby loss in some way, wherever you are in the world, feel free to email your answers to the below questions and any supporting images or information, over to firstname.lastname@example.org with the subject ‘It Still Takes A Village Submission’ and I’ll be in touch. I’ll be delighted to share your voice! No two people are the same so I’ll always be delighted to share your voice!
Submission questions for those who’s job or volunteer roles are based in the field of baby loss:
1. So, to start us off, please can you let us know a little about your current role? (What is your job/role title, where do you work, how long have you been doing it, and what does an average day look like etc)
2. What are you currently working on? Is there a particular project or aim that you’d like to share with people.
3. What motivated you to do the job/role that you are doing now?
4. In what ways does your current job/role allow you to get involved in the baby loss cause? (Is your work more about prevention, or supporting those affected? Is baby loss the central focus, or just one aspect of a varied role?)
5. What are the biggest frustrations or constraints that you face in supporting those affected by baby loss or preventing baby loss in the first place?
6. Do you think that Baby Loss is still a taboo, and if so, why? Do you encounter issues with it being a taboo in your day to day work?
7. Who else do you work alongside in terms of baby loss support or prevention? Are there any charities that support you, or perhaps a colleague/volunteer that you couldn’t manage without?
8. When the job/role is hard, what one thing reminds you to keep on keeping on?
9. We are in a shift change with the understanding and awareness of baby loss. What would you say to someone just starting out in a job/role associated to baby loss?
10. It’s likely that a newly bereaved parent is reading this. What would you like to say to them?
11. We have some ambitious targets for baby loss currently in the UK. What are your specific hopes for the future in terms of maternity and baby loss?
12. Thank you so much for taking part in this interview series. Lastly, before we finish – Is there anything else about you or your job/role that you’d like to let people know about?