So, a little while ago I opened up my blog to an 'Ask Me Anything' on the ins and outs of lesbian parenting... and finally I'm going to write it (newborn life, eh). Through the years, many people have asked us questions (apologetically) about our chosen route to parenting. Since Eli has been born, a … Continue reading Q and A on Lesbians becoming Parents
Eli River’s Birth Story
As the culmination of my Bump Day Blogs, this post first appeared on over on Pregnancy After Loss Support, here. For quite some time, we had the 19th June scheduled for Eli's induction. It would place us at exactly 37 weeks, and felt like a safe time to plan it. Leo had died at 37 … Continue reading Eli River’s Birth Story
Dear Eli, today is your due date…
Today is Eli's due date. 40 weeks. This is not a date that we ever held as being significant in terms of his arrival, as we always knew our pregnancy would never last that long. But it does feel poignant, so we are going out to celebrate this would-be end to our pregnancy. These past … Continue reading Dear Eli, today is your due date…
To Breast or Not to Breast
I really want to discuss our feeding journey for Eli, but I feel like it's a topic that can sometimes becomes far too political, so I've really debated how to approach it. Ultimately however, we started this blog to share the realities of our journey after Leo's death, and it's become a place (almost a … Continue reading To Breast or Not to Breast
Magpie : Bump Day Blogs for Pregnancy After Loss Support Week 33 -35
Here are my final Bump Day Blog Updates for Pregancy After Loss Support. Week 33: Preparing for Birth and Beyond "I find myself quite comfortable with the pregnancy side of things, given we’ve done this before. I know an element of what to expect, it isn’t new. Although this pregnancy is different in response to … Continue reading Magpie : Bump Day Blogs for Pregnancy After Loss Support Week 33 -35
Magpie : Bump Day Blogs for Pregnancy After Loss Support Week 29 – 32
An update on some of the latest Bump Day Blogs for Pregnancy After Loss Support, weeks 29 - 32. Week 29: A Shift "Throughout this pregnancy, I have never really felt pregnant enough. Everything always seems as though it’ll be when you get to X weeks or from the third trimester. And it feels now … Continue reading Magpie : Bump Day Blogs for Pregnancy After Loss Support Week 29 – 32
National Trusting through Tough Times
For my birthday last year, just eight weeks or so after Leo died, I really struggled to know how to process it, and especially how to answer the question what would you like for your birthday? My brain just screamed my baby, I want my baby. I wrote about it at the time. For anyone new … Continue reading National Trusting through Tough Times
Sharing our Journey : Tommy’s Maternal & Fetal Health Research Centre
Today, we had the honour of attending a training event for Central Manchester NHS Trust, as a patient representative for the Rainbow Clinic. We've discussed previously our involvement with the Clinic - it uniquely provides care in a subsequent pregnancy following a stillbirth or neonatal death. Their method of antenatal care is all inclusive, providing … Continue reading Sharing our Journey : Tommy’s Maternal & Fetal Health Research Centre
Magpie Baby Pool!
Milestones have been really important in this pregnancy. This morning, we have been able to put "30" on our milestone board for Magpie, something that when we first put a little lonely "6" on there back in Autumn seemed almost unimaginable! But, we've done it! THIRTY! So, as we love a milestone celebration, AND we … Continue reading Magpie Baby Pool!
The Parallel Life
Being pregnant after the loss of our first child, brings with it layer upon layer of challenges. As we have progressed through the past thirty weeks, we have found that placing certain things elsewhere, ready to pick up later, is the way forward. What I mean by this, is that we can only carry so … Continue reading The Parallel Life
The Legacy of Leo 