A little while ago, I was interviewed by Sands as part of a new report that they’ve just released exploring the mental health support of parents following bereavement. They were keen to capture the experiences of LGBTQ+ families, and so I shared my own perspectives and those I’ve heard from the community along the way. … Continue reading Sands Mental Health Report + the inclusion of LGBTQ+ voices
The dreamers, the pioneers
We watched Joy, the Netflix film on the Birth of IVF. I’ve been seeing a lot of chat about it and so was keen to watch it as soon as it came out.
Sibling Grief
Advent to Colour in and Remember
Dear World…
Dear World, As we end 2020, I wanted to offer my ‘resignation’ to a ‘role’ that has consumed and saved me in equal measure over the past five years; speaking openly and loudly about my own personal experience of Baby Loss, whilst advocating for others as part of the bigger picture of it all. I … Continue reading Dear World…
Making Baby Loss Support LGBTQ+ inclusive
As a result of shouting loudly about the need to include LGBT+ families in the discussions around pregnancy, baby and child loss - I’ve had several conversations lately to support charities in making their support materials inclusive. So I thought I’d share what I would recommend... Now, obviously, I am one part of a long … Continue reading Making Baby Loss Support LGBTQ+ inclusive
The changing times.
Four and a half years ago, almost. One month shy. Leo was born. Back then, my social media accounts and this blog site were created to provide a space to unload the fast running and overpowering thoughts in my mind. These accounts became a literal lift raft. The chance to write kept me afloat. It … Continue reading The changing times.
The power of sharing our stories – #DiversityInLoss
By sharing our stories we can impact the world is so many ways. We can releasd ourselves of those inner thoughts and give them to the world to hold, so we don’t have to anymore. We can connect with others who get it, and who have shared similar experiences - making us all feel less alone. It can be read by someone too scared to share, but now feeling heard. It can educate and inform those around us to understand the way that we have gone through. It can cause ripple effects by empowering others to share their stories, or do so, vicariously through yours.
#DiversityInLoss – I find it too painful to bare my broken heart to people
I think overall the shock and disbelief I felt after our first loss has just been compounded with more shock and grief over the years. I still can't believe this is our life, that after four pregnancies our home is still so quiet. That we have two graves to tend to.
#DiversityInLoss – Having to talk about my baby dying before he was even born
The essence of Diversity in Loss is to show variety in people's experiences, with the aim of helping others to relate. One of the aspects that can impact people's abilities to relate is that everyone's experiences will be so varied. It isn't just about being a 'twin pregnancy' and then everything else looking similar. I … Continue reading #DiversityInLoss – Having to talk about my baby dying before he was even born
#DiversityInLoss – Drawing helped me to phrase what I was feeling
The reason I started to draw is basically the fact that I couldn’t really talk about my loss. I couldn’t put it in words not even when visiting the psychologist. I was struggling. I was afraid I would be judged. I was afraid of everything and everyone.
The Legacy of Leo 