It’s a confusing place to be in the baby loss community, I kind of felt like I didn’t really have a ‘place’ or a right to people’s sympathies. A termination for medical reasons (TFMR) can often be met with judgment, and I almost feel like a fraud when I see people sharing their stories, because they didn’t choose to end their babies life, I did. But I’ve put those feelings on myself - I have been met with nothing but support and love.
A few weeks ago, I saw a email notification come up and instantly recognised the name - Prof Jacqueline Dunkley-Bent, the Chief Midwifery Officer for NHS England. I'd seen her speak at Better Births in March and knew very much who she was. Needless to stay, I was stopped in my tracks. I'd been invited … Continue reading There is Power in Being Heard – Podcasting with the Chief Midwifery Officer for NHS England
This week, I attended the NHS England Better Births Three Years On Event and share Leo and Eli's story. The event saw the annual review of the 2016 Better Births paper, aimed at improving maternity services in England. Over 500 people were in attendance across maternity, obstetric, neonatal and other related services together with families … Continue reading Better Births 2019 : Safety, Trust and Care
This blog post is part of a series of blog posts about navigating pregnancy after loss - you can read the introduction, and follow links to the other posts in this series here. Depending on the circumstances of your loss, some aspects of your medical care may be different. Our experience was a pregnancy after … Continue reading Getting the Best out of Your Medical Care during Pregnancy After Loss
This blog post is part of a series of blog posts about navigating pregnancy after loss - you can read the introduction, and follow links to the other posts in this series here. Emotionally, pregnancy after loss is hard. It is really important to prioritise your emotional and mental health just as much as your … Continue reading Caring for Your Emotional Wellbeing during Pregnancy After Loss
One of the main things that I get messages about, is 'where do you even start with navigating pregnancy after loss?' It was by far the most challenging experience we encountered after loosing Leo - its full of every single emotion and sometimes, they all hit in one day. Its intense, and its bloody hard. … Continue reading Navigating Pregnancy After Loss | An Introduction
We have been away on a last minute Daily Mail special (we googled the codes, don’t panic, I refuse to buy the DM!), at a Haven in Hastings in East Sussex for Eli’s birthday. And it’s been wonderful to be somewhere different, make memories and celebrate the little dude who has given us so much … Continue reading …and just like that, he is one.
Parenting after Loss anxiety, particularly at night, is a topic that has come up a few times lately in messages or on #BabyLossHour and I realised I don’t really talk about my anxiety now, since Eli arrived. The intensity of anxiety in pregnancy has absolutely left, but it's always there as a background beat to … Continue reading Anxiety through the Night when Parenting After Loss
Here are our most recent Bump Day Blogs for Pregnancy After Loss Support for those who are wanting to follow this aspect of our journey. Week 21: Hitting Maximum "I’d describe this week as proof that the old stress analogy of the overflowing glass of water is spot on. I most certainly hit my maximum. … Continue reading Magpie : Bump Day Blogs for Pregnancy After Loss Support Weeks 21 – 24
Today, is our due date. The due date of the baby we miscarried in summer, of our flicker of hope, of our little Robin. I didn't actually remember until mid morning. Or at least I didn't really click that it was the 23rd until mid morning. I'd known that this date was approaching. It's a … Continue reading On the Due Date of the Baby We Miscarried