The entire experience was a rollercoaster of emotions. We wanted it done, then when it was, we questioned our decision, knowing there was absolutely no going back. But once he was home, an enormous weight lifted and life felt slightly lighter. An emotional calm set in. Contentment. The disappointment, stress, anxiety and guilt over not visiting, and getting angry, and upset when we did visit was removed.
The language used in the cases of baby loss is even more delicate. Sally knew this and that’s why she didn’t jump in with medical terminology, telling me ‘It feels different from your previous miscarriages, because it’s not a miscarriage. It’s a termination.’ She knew that I was too traumatised and grief stricken to hear this word.
Maddie dealt with the day with unbelievable empathy. She handled the reality with grace and maturity. What would my advice to anyone wondering how to help a grieving child be? Let them lead ‘their’ way and be prepared for them to surprise you.
At the weekend, I took part in Swim Serpentine for the second time - this year tackling the two mile wave to fundraise for Antenatal Results & Choices, in memory of our friends little girls, Neve and Matilda. For those who have followed along on social media, you will know that I only started open … Continue reading Swimming Serpentine – Two Miles – 2019
A few weeks ago, I saw a email notification come up and instantly recognised the name - Prof Jacqueline Dunkley-Bent, the Chief Midwifery Officer for NHS England. I'd seen her speak at Better Births in March and knew very much who she was. Needless to stay, I was stopped in my tracks. I'd been invited … Continue reading There is Power in Being Heard – Podcasting with the Chief Midwifery Officer for NHS England
Each story, each experience, each family and each baby is different - and therefore, each deserve to be told, and then, heard. #DiversityInLoss
TICKETS ON SALE FRIDAY AT 10AM AVAILABLE HERE : https://www.teddyswish.org/babylosshourlive/ You are invited to the third #BabyLossHourLIVE event hosted by myself, @thelegacyofleo in celebration of the Teddy’s Wish, a charity dedicated to supporting those affected by baby loss. Join us, together with a small panel of guests, for an evening of conversation and belonging. The … Continue reading Baby Loss Hour Live London with Teddy’s Wish
So as we approach the start of the fair-weather open water swimming season, I thought I should record what it was like for me last year, and give those who want it some of my still-very-much-a-novice advice about tackling swimming without sides to hold on to every 25 metres!
Recently I hosted a #BabyLossHour with guest, Kate Pinney, a Tommys Midwife and Health Visitor. I invited Kate alone as the Health Visitor voice is one we don't really hear from in regards to baby loss and I wanted to explore that a little more. As always, whenever after care is discussed - it was … Continue reading Aftercare in the Community after the Loss of a Baby : Anecdotes for GPs, Midwives and Health Visitors
This week, I attended the NHS England Better Births Three Years On Event and share Leo and Eli's story. The event saw the annual review of the 2016 Better Births paper, aimed at improving maternity services in England. Over 500 people were in attendance across maternity, obstetric, neonatal and other related services together with families … Continue reading Better Births 2019 : Safety, Trust and Care